You’re Not Perverted, You’re Just Horny

So, you allow yourself to drift off into sexual fantasyland, and you are unsure about where you end up? Scared of what sort of things turn you on in your wildest fantasies? You’re not alone. It is natural to dream up scenarios that seem amazing in fantasyland, but would never be appealing in real life. However, there is often a bit of truth in your fantasies, and you need to get to the bottom of what it is about these fantasies that you find so appealing.

Allow Your Fantasies to Soar, and You’ll Reap Huge Benefits

As women, when we are feeling horny or sexually aroused, our minds often wander into fantasyland. Sometimes when I’m having my usual sex in the usual location of my bedroom, in my head I’m laying at the side of road on a giant marble pedestal. I’m being ravaged by a man with no distinguishable features, while drivers pass by and honk their horns. Some even get out and begin to jerk off while watching. The more people that line up at the side of the road in fantasyland, the closer to an orgasm I get in real life.

So take that for example. Do I want to be hoisted on a pedestal in the middle of my city and have sex? The answer is no. But what I can see from that fantasy is that it may be fun to experience a very tame voyeur experience. Perhaps getting felt up while sitting at a table in a busy restaurant will give me some of the same pleasures that I get from that fantasy.

Many times you wish you could act on your fantasies, but inhibitions, reputations, morals or even laws keep you from acting them out. (let’s be real – my fantasy on the pedestal is not exactly legal). But if it’s a fantasy that keeps popping up, you need to find some way to act it out – at least partially.

You may not be bold enough to tell your partner that you want him to screw your ass, then cum in it while he pulls your hair and screams “You filthy, dirty wh*#@” at the top of his lungs… but maybe you could suggest some minor anal play to get things started. Once you’re both comfortable with that, who knows where it will lead? Perhaps your fantasy is not far off.

So next time you find yourself in a crazy, “perverted” fantasy (and let’s just say, I’ve probably thought up ones that are far crazier!), try to get to the bottom of the fantasy, and start experimenting with that bottom line. It may never get as far as it does in fantasyland, but chances are it just doesn’t need to. Playing into a fantasy is a very erotic experience, so you don’t need to go overboard. You’ll be stimulated plenty by just touching on your fantasy.