If you’ve been thinking about anal sex, and think you’re ready to try it out, there are definitely some things you need to think about first. Having anal sex is a pretty common practice these days, but hopefully you understand the safety precautions that you should take.

The internet is full of advice on how to make the first time less painful, or how to keep from getting a vaginal infection, etc. What many people may not consider is the emotional impact that it may take on you when you first engage in anal sex, and thereafter.

Think You’re Ready to Have Anal Sex?

Having anal sex is a pretty big step to take, and you need to make sure that you’re emotionally prepared for it. You understand the safety precautions, but do you understand the emotional side-effects? Here are some things you need to think about before engaging in anal sex.

1. Can I Trust my Partner?

First and foremost, you really need to trust and feel comfortable with your partner. For many guys, the prospect of anal sex is a very exciting one, and his hormones may be raging. You need to ensure that he can control his urges and take it very slow and easy with you. Talk it out while it’s happening to make sure you’re both okay.

2. Relax, Relax, Relax

The muscles in your anus have the ability to contract very tightly. If you’re not comfortable and relaxed, there is no way he’s going to get his penis in your ass. It usually helps to be very aroused before he tries to enter. Have him perform oral sex (or whatever you fancy the most) until you’re just about to orgasm, and then allow him to enter – when you’re ready.

3. Now That it’s Done, How do You Feel?

You’ll typically know if you like it or don’t. But don’t let your mind play tricks on you. Because anal sex is still a bit of a taboo subject, some girls may feel dirty or used immediately after. Don’t. Anal sex is very common, and you need to remember – sex is all about pleasure. If it feels good, keep doing it. If it doesn’t feel good, make that your first and last time. And please, don’t pretend you like it just to make your man happy. If you don’t like it, he needs to understand that.

4. Is That All He Wants?

A common problem after having anal sex with your partner, is they got so excited by the event that it may be all they can think of. They may start asking you if they can go anal every time you have sex. This may make you feel like they don’t like your vagina anymore. But it’s not that – they’re just excited. Let them know you do like anal sex, but you love vaginal sex too.