Relationships have come a long way in the past few years. True, the introduction of cell phones, e-mail and social media (i.e., Facebook, Twitter), has made communication a lot easier. However, these technologies also have a habit of testing the trust in relationships, and can sometimes cause problems where problems needn’t be.
Here are a few ways to keep these problems from getting in the way of an otherwise healthy relationship:
Don’t be a Creeper!
I know that it’s tempting to constantly scan his online profiles for messages written by other girls. Sometimes, you might even see ones from random girls signed “xo”. Don’t go too crazy over these things. Most girls I know sign-off most online messages like that to anyone that is a friend.
Online Friends Aren’t Your Biggest Worry
If you do see girls online saying things like “we should get together for lunch one of these days”, feel free to ask him about it. However – if this girl is contacting him by Facebook, she probably doesn’t have his phone number. Therefore, how close can they really be, right? Don’t freak out every time you see something small. If it does make you squirm though, just ask him nicely – don’t be accusing.
You Don’t Need his Passwords
Sometimes you will want to ask him for his passwords to email and Facebook. Sometimes in an effort to show you that nothing is going on – he will give them to you. Don’t let this happen. It will drive you crazy, feeling the need to check it constantly. Also, what if you and him have an argument and he needs to vent or ask advice to one of his buddies? He won’t want you to read that, and you will end up driving him to open a new account that you don’t know about. E-mail is personal. If he’s going to try something with someone, he will do it whether you have his password or not. Just don’t go here.
Checking His Phone
If neither one of you are doing anything wrong, it wouldn’t technically matter if either checked the other’s phone. However, cell phones are also personal. If you find him texting someone constantly, simply ask him who it is. He should have no problem letting you know. Ask him to show you if you suspect anything, but don’t insist on reading every message. You’ll drive him crazy!